Portraying an Image

We are so much more than our fears allow us to be.

The fear of being judged prevents most individuals from living their dreams, taking risks, wearing comfortable clothing, going on a trip alone, falling in love, ditching the destructive relationship and pretty much every aspect of life.  We stifle our lust for adventure.  Our identity, our passions, our truth becomes hidden behind the illusion of What Will People Think.

A week into my enrollment to become a certified Health Coach, I uncovered that I have been traveling in this direction for a years.  I just didn’t know it.  When I stopped looking outside of myself for my life’s purpose, the answers appeared and the inner compass exposed my calling.   One of those signs came from a simple three-ingredient Christmas treat that ravished my body in an allergic reaction and one more food item was added to my list of never-touch-that-again.  The need to explore healthy options grows and is the driving force behind my desire to help others with their food intolerances.  I want to know how our diet affects our health.

As I wrote my thoughts in a journal, a question surfaced – If I am a Health Coach, don’t I have an image to uphold?  Does this mean the grocery store clerk is going to judge me harshly because I have a bottle of wine, a bag of potato chips and a six-pack of chocolate bars on the conveyer belt, or is she going to smile sympathetically and know it’s that time of the month?  Does this mean I have to run marathons or become a yoga instructor?  What if I post things contradictory to a healthy lifestyle on Facebook?


The fear of being judged can be overwhelming and it stifles our authentic self.


My intent as a Health Coach and author is to assist people explore healthy eating options tailored them and to find balance in the four elements of life – career, relationship, spirituality, physical activity.

I am, just like you, a work in process.  Life is forever evolving.  I plan to share my stories, knowledge and keep an open mind to new possibilities.  As far as my image, just know that I am sassy, I am a momma of two sons (and their beautiful wives) and a grandma to three boys, I am a writer, I love to giggle, I am bull-headed, I swear, I love deeply and the rest I’ll leave to your imagination.

Life is an amazing adventure…

Sell IT Your Way – Authentically

A while back I listened to a young woman who is what I consider a gentle soul.  There is an honesty about her that is sincere; she is genuinely a very caring individual.  She asked a hardcore seller, “How do you do it?  How do you get all of these clients to buy?”  He lifts his head so his jaw line is parallel to the floor, brings his relaxed shoulders to attention, takes in deep breath, and from his barstool he confidently replies, “I tell ‘em if they’re not serious about what I have to offer that I don’t have time for them.  You’d be amazed how many people say, ‘tell me more’.”  She was impressed and eager to learn his technique.  For me, personally, if a sales person said that to me, my next words would be “bye-bye.”  If he doesn’t have time to fulfill my curiosity in the initial conversation, odds are he won’t be around for customer service after the sale if I need help.  But then again, it’s his technique. 

On a one particular sales blitz, I left behind a tearful client who was brow-beaten by one of my management team.  Sad, but I would go so far to say it was an emotional blood-bath.  Later that evening I went back to the storeowner, apologized, and promised I would never bring the ‘boss’ across her threshold.  She was traumatized by the cruelty of the hard-core selling tactic all because she firmly held her ground and said “No” to a promotion she didn’t feel would be beneficial in marketing her business.   I lost a good client that day.    

It’s no secret, I have been in sales for a long time and I am really good at it when I am allowed to sell my way.  Not the boss’ way.  Not the corporation’s way.  Not the latest and greatest way.  I succeed when I am doing it my way.  That’s the key – my way.  The way I feel most comfortable doing it.  First of all I have to believe in the product.  I am not a manipulator who can sell ice to an Eskimo for the simple reason I would be asking – why in the hell would an Eskimo want more ice?  A heater, yes.  Ice, no.

When I first was introduced to the profession of being an advertising representative for a local media, I had the friends who would literally cross the street when they saw me coming.  They would duck into a storefront if I made eye contact with them or they’d pretend they didn’t see me.  One day, I approached one of tuck-n-hides and flat out asked, “Did I do something to make you angry with me?  Why are you avoiding me?”  [Let me interject something important to help you better understand the point I wish to make: I was going through a divorce, my life was in turmoil and lots of really nasty rumors where being whispered around the community about me.  I took their tuck-n-hides very personally and wondered if the divorce ruined my life.]  A woman who’s about my age, and is one of those tell-it-like-it-is kind of gals, said, “It’s not you, it’s the company you work for.  I won’t advertise with them.”  Long story shortened, she didn’t like the previous salesperson.  It wasn’t me or the product.  With a consistent schedule and offering only the promotions suited to her business, I eventually signed her up. 

There a million and ten books, trillions of how-to videos online, and speakers galore.  Listen, learn, read, soak up what resonates with you.  Each of us is unique.  There is not a right way, nor a wrong way to sell…just your way.   Set goals.  Write out the target lists.  Repeat your affirmations daily.  Figure out your weaknesses and your strengths.   Please, please follow your heart and be authentic.